When Is The Right Time To Go To Couples Counseling?

The right time is right now.  If either partner is considering counseling… If either partner is wishing the relationship could be better… If either or both partners are feeling unsatisfied or unheard or unhappy, the time for counseling is now. Why now?

Because studies show that most couples wait an average of six years before finally seeking professional help. By then, they have accumulated SIX YEARS of unmet needs, accumulated hurt, and lost affection. Often, by that time, it is too late. Couples use counseling as a final step on the way out the door. A way to say, “We tried everything.” or “This is going to hurt my partner when I leave; at least he or she will in counseling.” 

Yet couples counseling can be extremely effective when both partners are willing to participate and want to improve their relationship.  Think of couples counseling as preventative care and maintenance for your relationship. Just as you take your car to the mechanic for an oil change so that you don’t have to tow it in later with a burning engine, couples counseling can be a way to address small, everyday habits and problems before they break down your relationship. Couples do not have to be in full-blown conflict or separation to improve their relationship. Couples counselors can also help you learn to fight better, share your dreams, and bring the spark back into your relationship. Consider giving your partner the gift of couples counseling, it’s bound to be more interesting and fun than getting an oil change. 

Andi Grandy LMFT, LPC (she/her)

Andi Grandy LMFT, LPC (she/her)

Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor

Andi specializes in couples at all stages of relationships, sex and desire issues, parents and teens in conflict, launching young adults, and individuals who want to make changes in how they function in relationships. She is the founder of GR Family Therapy.

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