Couples Therapy

Romance and affection are at the bottom of my endless long to-do list. I can’t remember the last time we had a discussion that wasn’t about finances, work, or kids. When I look at my partner all I see is competition for much needed rest, energy, or alone time. We are having the same damn argument over and over again! Everything changed once we had kids. There’s so much distance between us that I don’t know how to make our way back. Or that I even want to. Maybe I actually married an asshole.

Many couples have been where you are, feeling hopeless, and trying couples therapy as one last chance to save the relationship. Which is brave because couples therapy as portrayed in the media looks terrible.

I utilize Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, an attachment based, empirically proven method to help couples create a more secure connection. EFT has 3 stages:

Stage 1 – Identify and De-escalate the Cycle of Conflict

Basically, couples have a predictable cycle they get stuck in. We’re going to figure out your unique cycle, help you understand what causes it, and learn to fight right.

Stage 2 – Creating New Interactions

Now that we have more calm, we work to rebuild trust and revisit past unrepaired pain and hurt. The goal is true healing and understanding so that you no longer need to protect yourself from the person you love most.

Stage 3 – Consolidation

Whew! The hardest work is done but often couples still need to learn how to address unfinished conflicts. I help couples get on the same page with the classics: sex, money, parenting, in-laws, and more. The last step is helping couples feel confident that they can maintain these changes through relationship maintenance. If you are fans of Gottman Methods this is where their research is incredibly effective.

To learn more about EFT, please click HERE.

Love always takes work but it should never take suffering.

-Helen Rosner

Couples Therapy

When the person who is supposed to love you most in the world hurts you it's devastating and disorienting. I help couples hear each other and respond in new effective ways in order to heal the past and stay connected for the future.

Premarital / Precommitment Prep

Congratulations! You found your person! Let’s help you start the next chapter of your life with confidence, open communication, and a shared vision of the future.

Individual Therapy

Live. Laugh. Love? In this economy? Let alone Work, Parent, Exercise. Life Admin. See Friends. Save for Retirement... etc. I can help you move from feeling like an empty husk to living a full, satisfying life.

Sex Therapy

I know sex and intimacy can be many things: mind-blowing, dread-inducing, fun, playful, fraught, and loving. Whether you want more sex, less sex, or better sex I can help you get what you want.

Parents of Young Adults

Parents! Are you losing hope that your young adult will ever be able to leave the nest? I can help refine your approach in a way that fosters motivation, responsibility, and independence.

Family Therapy

These days there are countless conflicts and controversies breaking families apart. I provide a safe place to be truly understood and seen so you can stay connected.

Schedule Today

I offer free, 20-minute online consultations.

The first rule of therapy is: You have to trust your therapist.

Let’s test the waters and see if we are a good fit. Consultations also give me a chance to hear about what you’re looking for, explain the process, and answer any questions you have.

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GR Family Therapy Blog

A Discouraging Statistic

Most couples wait on average seven years before reaching out for therapy. This is one* of the reasons why couples therapy has lower success rates that other forms of therapy. By the time couples reach out, the hurt and anger are big. Sometimes people have lost hope. Some couples only decide to go to therapy when they feel the relationship is already over and they want to be able to say they’ve. Tried. Every. Thing. Sometimes one partner is willing to try therapy and the other one is not.

Emotionally Focused Therapy as explained by the founder, Dr. Sue Johnson

HOLD ME TIGHT Article by Dr. Sue Johnson originally published in Psychology Today I grew up in my parents' pub in England, where there was always a lot of drama. And all the drama—fights, flirting, tears, tantrums—revolved around love. I also watched...

“There’s Going To Be Some Changes Around Here!”

Have you ever said this about your home? My clients tend to say this about expectations and routines for their kids around any change of season: at the beginning of summer vacation, the start of a new school year, or even heading into spring break. At these times...