Sometimes relationships benefit from a break. Sometimes after couples split up they realize they don’t want to be apart. But after the hearts-and-flowers phase of reunification fades, couples are often left with the same patterns and problems that lead them to break up in the first place. Does this mean it’s time for another separation?
That kind of thinking sounds a lot like the definition of insanity: doing the same thing, repeatedly, hoping for different results. Surely there is a better way to create positive change in a relationship than leaving or threatening to leave. Definitely there is a less painful way. Yet, it can be so difficult for couples to see a way out of their problems, especially when those arguments are about deep, meaningful, important issues like showing affection, raising kids, dealing with other family members, or navigating finances. Often couples are trying everything they can to resolve these problems with little headway. No wonder breaking up appears to be a helpful, desirable option. A qualified MFT can help couples get out of these familiar patterns and learn news skills to handle compromise.
If you would like to reunite with your partner for the long run, consider contacting me to set up an appointment for couples therapy.
